My beloved daughter,..!!
Wherever you go, indeed the earth that you step on will be a witness for you in the Day of Reckoning.
When world temptation and allurement which are getting heavier day by day will be there in the future, always remember that you are part of the community of noble creature created to be khalifah on the earth. You are an inhabitant of the universe who’s inappropriate to act evil after the great entrustment that has been put upon you. Even mountains could not bear this great entrustment.
إِنَّا عَرَضْنَا الْأَمَانَةَ عَلَى السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ وَالْجِبَالِ فَأَبَيْنَ أَن يَحْمِلْنَهَا وَأَشْفَقْنَ مِنْهَا وَحَمَلَهَا الْإِنسَانُ إِنَّهُ كَانَ ظَلُوماً جَهُولاً
“Truly,We did offer Al-Amanah (the trust or moral responsibility or honesty and all the duties which Allah has ordained) to the heavens and the earth, and the mountains, but they declined to bear it and were afraid of it (i.e. afraid of Allahs Torment). But man bore it. Verily, he was unjust (to himself) and ignorant (of its results). “ (Al-Ahzab [33] : 72)
Nevertheless, Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala will not let you off without sufficient provision. Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala bestow upon mankind on earth advantages that if they are used in accordance to His divine legislation, then this big entrusment could be done well.
Indeed, there’s no doubt that every human being is created in the best creation. Put that in your mind that you are born as a perfect creature. Listen to the assurance of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala Himself, how perfect the shape of creature called human being, as Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says:
لَقَدْ خَلَقْنَا الْإِنسَانَ فِي أَحْسَنِ تَقْوِيمٍ
“Verily, We created man of the best stature (mould),” (QS At-Tin [95] : 4)
Not to mention the blessing of intelect which He gave to human being to differ and choose for the truth as well as intelect as a marked difference from other creature. Islam as your guidance has called to each individual to use their mind and intelect in order to be the noblest creature before Him.
Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says:
>الَّذِينَ يَذْكُرُونَ اللّهَ قِيَاماً وَقُعُوداً وَعَلَىَ جُنُوبِهِمْ وَيَتَفَكَّرُونَ فِي خَلْقِ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالأَرْضِ رَبَّنَا مَا خَلَقْتَ هَذا بَاطِلاً
“Those who remember Allah (always, and in prayers) standing, sitting, and lying down on their sides, and think deeply about the creation of the heavens and the earth, (saying): "Our Lord! You have not created (all) this without purpose,” (QS Al-Imran [3] : 191)
In your life journey, you will find various allurement and deceit of syaithan who never rest in trying to tempt you. They will never give up getting what they want. In this corrupted society, it is proper for you to be involved in correction effort.
No matter how difficult it is to face obstacle and temptation that you will deal later in your life journey, He will grant convenience and safety for His servant. He also had given guidance through His Meseggers and Prophets as the way out on every problem happening in every period of time. The guidance is known as religion. Verily Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala reveals His devine legislation to safeguard and protect mankind so that they are safe from a deep misery and difficulties not the other way around.
مَا أَنزَلْنَا عَلَيْكَ الْقُرْآنَ لِتَشْقَى إِلَّا تَذْكِرَةً لِّمَن يَخْشَى
“We have not sent down the Quran unto you (O Muhammad ) to cause you distress, But only as a Reminder to those who fear (Allah).” (QS Thahaa [20] : 2-3)
Therefore, O my daughter, go back to The Qur’an and Al hadith of The Mesenger of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, study it, reflect on it, and act on in seadfastedly.
Hijab
My daughter, has it ever crossed your mind that you are created upon enchanting nature. Have you ever realised how your existance on earth is also but a trial for the life of and ignorants? Therefore, remember always the saying of The Messenger of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala :
مَا تَرَكْتُ بَعْدِيْ فِتْنَةً أَضَرَّ عَلَى الرِّجَالِ مِنْ النِّسَاءِ
“I’m not leaving more of a trial after me for men, than the trial of women.” (Related by al-Bukhari, no. 4808 and Muslim, no. 2740, 2741).
Look...! Unfortunately woman are an issue that man should be dealing with careful condiseration. Of course it also requires your consistency in attitude so that you can bring yourself properly. With your physical apperance, and inclination to show your beauty to others, then it is appropriate for you women to have a safe way out, in order to escape from the trial which has been warned off. O my beloved daughter, surely! Don’t you ever fall on the way which only exploite your beauty and charm as a means of evil to condemn you or even others to the hellfire. To Allah we seek for protection!
At all accounts, your Lord is really care and always protect you from evil of the world with rules He has legislated. And He will never impose an obligation beyond your ability to cope with.
لاَ يُكَلِّفُ اللّهُ نَفْساً إِلاَّ وُسْعَهَا
“Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope.” (QS Al-Baqarah [2] : 286)
ذَلِكَ أَدْنَى أَن يُعْرَفْنَ فَلَا يُؤْذَيْنَ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ غَفُوراً رَّحِيماً
“That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever OftForgiving, Most Merciful.” (QS Al-Ahzaab [33] : 59)
My righteous daughter…!!
Covering aurah (part of body which should be covered according to Islamic legislation) as legislated by Allah The Exalted and Most High and His Messenger is as important as other act of worships such as praying, fasting or giving charity, that if it is not fulfilled, then there will be big consequences and sanctions. The command of Allah The Exalted and Most High on Hijab is also proceeded by words ‘a believing woman’. Indeed it shows everyone how fundamental this obligation is, for every Muslim woman like you.
Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says:
وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا
And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof (QS An-Nur [24] : 31)
Maybe if this beautiful legislation could be implemented accordingly, no more abuse to be find upon womanhood, including rape which often happens within a society. Your religion has set rules accordingly about covering in order to increase rank and preserve dignity and chastity of believing women. This legislation of Allah, The Exalted and Most High, is indeed to place the satus of women in noble position and not falling into mere commodities which could be traded in a wide terms. The legislation in turn will bring life harmony in gaining success as a part of a family and society. And you should also remember one thing that covering is not a means to restrict any of your potency and talent, for you can still carry on other obligations such as seeking knowledge, enjoining right and forbiding wrong, and obligatory to live within society in good and lawful manner, as long as they fall under the criteria and legislated rules.
True Friend and Social Relationship
Doing the obligation of covering (hijab), you have at least put an initial and fundamental guard to start entering in a more complex life. Indeed you don’t have to fight alone, for only with friends and good environment, you could preserve the religious values which you uphold so far. Don’t ever stop looking for a sincere friendship and good environment for the safety of your religion and chastity. Because no one can survive alone in the middle of this fast wave of the changing time. You still need a friend and a proper surrounding to improve your quality and faith in the future. Remember, not all people to be made as friends. The Messenger of Allah shallallahu alaihi wasallam has reminded us in this regard by his pure tongue:
الْمَرْءُُ عَلَى دِينِ خَلِيلِهِ فَلْيَنْظُرْ أَحَدُكُمْ مَنْ يُخَالِلُ
“A man follows the religion of his friend, so each one should consider whom he makes his friend.” (Related by Abu Dawud, no. 4833 and At-Tirmdzi)
And listen, O my daughter! That the best friendship is the one that could benefit you in religion and life. The Messenger of Allah shallallahu alaihi wassallam himself has affirmed the need of careful consideration in choosing a friend in his saying:
لَا تُصَاحِبْ إِلَّا مُؤْمِنًا وَلَا يَأْكُلْ طَعَامَكَ إِلَّا تَقِيٌّ
“Associate only with a believer, and let only a God-feared man eat your meals.” (Reported by Abu Dawud no. 4873, and At-Tirmidzi, no. 2395).
It is possible; a good teenage girl like you could be influenced by an evil friend. Indeed, such friend will only bring you in dooming condition. In fact, it is possible such social relationship finally will bring misguided ‘modern’ paradigms, such as being firm in religion is old fashioned; veil (jilbab) is only tradition and backward perspective; that ‘modern culture’ on the other hand are free mixing, excessive self-exposure, showing beauty and body figures to everyone while dismantle the clothes of piety (i.e. hijab). That is! Without realising, slowly you feel attracted to those sweet and ‘logical’ arguments, and follow it gradually. Not knowing that the new culture is an accurate and planned trap from the enemies of Allah The Most High to drag you into the valley of misery. And finally you will regret it, but by that time any remorse will be useless.
Allah The Most High says:
يَا وَيْلَتَى لَيْتَنِي لَمْ أَتَّخِذْ فُلَاناً خَلِيلاً لَقَدْ أَضَلَّنِي عَنِ الذِّكْرِ بَعْدَ إِذْ جَاءنِي وَكَانَ الشَّيْطَانُ لِلْإِنسَانِ خَذُولاً
"Ah! Woe to me! Would that I had never taken so-and-so as a friend! "He indeed led me astray from the Reminder (this Quran) after it had come to me. And Shaitan (Satan) is ever a deserter to man in the hour of need." (QS Al-Furqan [25] : 28-29)
Indeed, don’t ever try to make friends with immoral and ignorant person, unless you are in a stronger position to advice and remind her. Because it is an obligation for everyone trying the best he/she can to teach good and prevent evil. And Allah The Most High has guaranted that those who enjoining right and forbiding wrong are among those who succeed.
Allah The Exalted and The Most High says:
وَلْتَكُن مِّنكُمْ أُمَّةٌ يَدْعُونَ إِلَى الْخَيْرِ وَيَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَيَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ الْمُنكَرِ وَأُوْلَـئِكَ هُمُ الْمُفْلِحُونَ
“Let there arise out of you a group of people inviting to all that is good (Islam), enjoining Al-Maroof (i.e. Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam orders one to do) and forbidding Al-Munkar (polytheism and disbelief and all that Islam has forbidden). And it is they who are the successful.” (QS Al-Imran [3] : 104)
In a society which no longer consider morality and divine legislation as the basic principal, there is no other way to gain salvation except striving hard to streghthen the faith from inside. This is the most important factor which determines success or failure of your journey.
Patience and Steadfastness
Finally, the top of all effort and exertion are patience and steadfastness. I really understand that all kind of evil encircle now in your sorrounding which you often could not avoid from. Classrooms and colleges, public facilities and transportations, and even in the corner of offices or factories, have been filled by free mixing culture that has been going on since long ago. This practice has been considered as natural condition in society.
Indeed there will be times when you feel sad and alone. But you do know, even The Messenger of Allah , the pure man whose pray was always accepted (by Allah) had experienced it. It is because a test and trial will make you mature and wise in leading your life. So be patient with it. Moreover, don’t stop asking for help and best solution from each of your problem. Is it not that Allah The Most High Himself says that:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ اسْتَعِينُواْ بِالصَّبْرِ وَالصَّلاَةِ إِنَّ اللّهَ مَعَ الصَّابِرِينَ
O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-salat (the prayer). Truly! Allah is with As-Sabirin (the patient ones, etc.). (QS al-Baqarah [2] : 153)
My beloved daughter!
Surely Allah The Most High burdens not His slaves beyond his capacity. Because only He who knows best of the condition and strength of each of His creature. Of course that each of good deed will face trials. Therefore, when a heavy trial and calamity suddenly fall in the middle of your effort in performing good deeds, it is enough for you to think that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala still cares for you. Don’t ever feel lonely! For such a trial is also experienced by those who have high rank of faith, wind blows harder on higher tree.
أَحَسِبَ النَّاسُ أَن يُتْرَكُوا أَن يَقُولُوا آمَنَّا وَهُمْ لَا يُفْتَنُونَ
“Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: "We believe," and will not be tested. (QS Al-Ankabuut [29] : 2)
There are many obstacles, cynical statements and views from people against our action in favor of goodness. A Muslim woman who willing to leave her school, work, or her familiy in order to dress up perfectly (i.e by islamic rule) is a real example of a trial that we heard. Therefore, when never ending trials come and go, don’t be despair from the mercy of Allah..
. يَا بَنِيَّ اذْهَبُواْ فَتَحَسَّسُواْ مِن يُوسُفَ وَأَخِيهِ وَلاَ تَيْأَسُواْ مِن رَّوْحِ اللّهِ إِنَّهُ لاَ يَيْأَسُ مِن رَّوْحِ اللّهِ إِلاَّ الْقَوْمُ الْكَافِرُونَ
"O my sons! Go you and enquire about Yoosuf (Joseph) and his brother, and never give up hope of Allahs Mercy. Certainly no one despairs of Allahs Mercy, except the people who disbelieve." (QS Yusuf [12] : 87)
Migration
Migration (hijrah) simply means moving. Move from an old place to a new one. Move from bad sorrounding to a better one. Or move from ignorance to a soul which filled with lights (of guidance). My daughter, when you have done every way but achieving no satisfactory result, then The Messenger of Allah has given an example to do migration.
My beloved daughter...!!
Migration in your life actually means your ability and willingness to acquire condusive environment for the improvement of your religion. It is when a Muslim woman feels uncomfortable in her working environment, or a student feels that the educational surrounding and material she receives does not bring her any good. Or when a mother worries abour her child mental condition in the middle of corrupting society. Patience and steadfastness sometimes are not enough.
So as with you! When free mixing of social relationship spreading in every corner, and on the other hand you could not make any change, then the best way for you is migration.
Whereas Allah The Most High will bestow mercy on those who strive hard in faighting on His path with courage and wisdom to gain His pleasure.
Allah says:
إِنَّ الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ وَالَّذِينَ هَاجَرُواْ وَجَاهَدُواْ فِي سَبِيلِ اللّهِ أُوْلَـئِكَ يَرْجُونَ رَحْمَتَ اللّهِ وَاللّهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ
Verily, those who have believed, and those who have emigrated (for Allahs Religion) and have striven hard in the Way of Allah, all these hope for Allahs Mercy. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most-Merciful. (QS Al-Baqarah [2] : 218)
O my daughter…!!
There were many true stories of repentance and guidance of converters (muallaf) where one process they have to do is migration. By migrating, it does not mean that we run away from problems. On the other hand, we try to build our strength and come back when the time comes.
In a simple meaning, migration is defined as an effort to change attitudes, behaviours, clothes, and way of thinking which previously tend to be free without basic principles of Allah The Most High, into wiser and more legislated. Previously, you wore the covering but still showed certain part of your body, then it is time to improve the quality of your dress perfectly. Before now, you only interested on books or magazines or other media which not benefited your soul, then it is the time to open your mind and point of view by start reading those which can improve the quality of faith and Islam.
Furthermore, it is necessary to flourish your soul by getting used to read, understand and listen to the Qur’an recitation that could bring tranquillity and composure to the soul. Likewise listening to Islamic cassettes, VCD and DVD, for the role of audio media will be very effective to ease the heart to achieve a ‘healthy’ state. Then this kind of thing can be alternatives to fulfil the need. Nowadays there are Islamic cassettes and VCDs from in or outside the country. Nevertheless, we need to keep selective in choosing it.
And the Selected One Propose You
The blessed love light
Covered with gift and pleasure of Him
This is the day
When the pure honey meet the honeybee
Guard and possess your fragrance in His Name
Here comes the time!
O my beloved daughter, a man has come before me. Honesty in his eyes and well spoken of his words have tempted me to ask him. “What do you want from my daughter, O young man?” And when he says that he wants you as partner of his life, together worship Him, I smile in relieve. And when he says his desire to have righteous generation and little fighters born from your pure womb, I cry happily inside.
Indeed, after your difficult effort to survive in prairie filled with wild grass, then it is time for a selected man to take you by the hand. With your pure enchanting fragrant, your elegance and honour that you’ve preserved without blemish, have put you in the position of a worthy woman to be chosen. But one thing you have to remember that after the blossom, the battle has not yet ceased. Marriage is a turning point where your battle field changes. You are no longer a girl. Your responsibility, attention and struggle have increased; you should start thinking about your own family, your children, and your husband. My advice for you is to keep your fragrance which you have guarded all the way.
Finally, may Allah The Exalted and Most High pours His mercy and blessing on your wedding, your family and all of your offspring in the future, hence when the time comes, they could also lead their life in their time on the path which has set by Allah The Exalted and The Most High. Amien.
All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the universe.
Translated by Ummu Abdillahh al-Buthoniyyah
Edited b: Ummu Aydhin
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