Cause You Blossom Only Once - 1

Cause You Blossom Only Once

A Love Letter to My Beloved Daughter

By: Haikal Hira Habibullah

Translated from the Book "Sebab Mekarmu Hanya Sekali"

Introduction

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

All praise is due to Allah The Exalted and The Most High, Lord of The Universe. May He give us strength and patient in every step we make on His earth. May peace and blessing be upon Muhammad , the last Prophet, the noblest man and His beloved. His presence was a gift to this dark world, the only complete guidance for all mankind thereafter. And may peace and blessing be upon his family his noble companions, the people of knowledge and all his people (ummah) of whom he never stop loving.

My beloved daughter…!!

Watching your deep sleep in your mother arms, had always convinced me that everything would be fine. Enjoying your tender breath on the cradle always comforts my feeling at that time. Those beautiful moments had passed swiftly. And ages had taken its due. Until days became weeks, and months changed to years, I realised suddenly that soon you will be gone from my side. For the time has come for you to go. Lead your own life. Yes, it is time for me to let you go to a new life out there.

World outside! It is a place which is not friendly at all my dear. A place where you have to survive in the middle of threats that will always challenge you. With the world that become older, filled with various facilities which should have simplified this life. But alas, all of it in fact has made the reality of lives become more chaotic, and in a total mess. Recently, all kind of evil and action of the ignorance have performed themselves openly. Free society with various background and reasons have distanced people from the ideal life. Free mixing between men and women that happened on every span of the earth has become something ordinary and natural. And without anyone notices it, this ‘natural’ thing has indicated dangerous symptoms. Yes, varied negative impacts on free mixing culture have taken place. And again, women, like you, are the first who feel the effect, directly or indirectly. News from various media only contain dreadful thing for mind and soul. Everyone is racing to present the evil and the dark side of life. The appearance of evil and wickedness around us are only a matter of time. There is no truly save place everywhere. So much so. Today when I look out to this wild world from our window, suddenly He (Allah) moves my hand to write a few words which I will entrust to you.

So for you, my beloved daughter, I write this letter. Covered with pray and love that will never dry, I will ask Allah, The Exalted and The Most High – The Owner of every soul – to protect you in the shade of salvation and His love. As for you to know that I love you so much and don’t want the wicked trap of world defeat you.

Finally, enjoy your adolescence, my daughter. Guard always your heart and yourself, everywhere, every time.

May Allah The Exalted and The Most High guides us all.

When the Seed Starting to Grow

A drop of captivated love

And the seed of affection blushed in shyness

Wrapped with hope and pray

Then it is time for the breathing of the soul

“Be…!” And it is you!

My beloved daughter..!

No one knows what will happen in future. Even when the blink of the eye and the breath come out from this transitory body and absorbed by the surrounding world. We never know whether we still have a chance to blink the eyes again. We could not even guarantee ourselves to breath the air in the next second, except by the permission of The Owner of life, Allah The Exalted and The Most High bestow His blessings. Indeed, it is destiny that has guided you until this point.

It is what happened at that moment. Periods where the seeds of love from your parents was united in a sacred marriage. Hereupon, Allah created and grew this pure seed of love with His mercy. Protected and cared you in the loving womb every second. And time passed by until the day when people gather around hoped and worried, waiting for your birth. And to you, I would like to reveal the saying of Allah Subahanahu wa Ta'ala, the meaning of a child, like you, for me:

وَاعْلَمُواْ أَنَّمَا أَمْوَالُكُمْ وَأَوْلاَدُكُمْ فِتْنَةٌ وَأَنَّ اللّهَ عِندَهُ أَجْرٌ عَظِيمٌ

“And know that your possessions and your children are but a trial and that surely with Allah is a mighty reward.” (QS Al-Anfal [8] : 28)


That is the fact. Even your birth which makes me so happy is indeed but a trial and a test. With His Knowledge, He has entrusted you in our care. So you must understand that in carrying this trusteeship requires a suitable process and method. Therefore, when the time comes to bear you afs my responsibility before Him, I could smile and be proud of you.

Furthermore, there’s no other desire in me except a wish to take you to the path of light which He has set. Your future – which we don’t even know yet – should be passed successfully. And especially for you, my beloved daughter, make everything in past as a driven power to face your future which we could not figure out.



A Flower in the Prairie

The spreading out prairie

The rustling wind and the buzzing bee

The wind of time has changed its direction

Until your time will come

Never let your fragrance gone in vain

Today, time has brought you to an age which is so enchanting. Time has changed the appearance and the age has reached maturity. You have grown up to be a big girl. Out there, gate of the outside world which open widely is ready to welcome you with all its flirt and tantalizing shine. Indeed, letting you go into a society which is ignorant of Islamic law always worried me. Realizing that the opened canine tooth of life ready to attack you, force me to once again remind you. But you must keep on moving ahead. Therefore listen to my message, O my beloved daughter! Do observe all phenomenons around you which can defeat you. Have you realized it?



Immoral Media


You are living in a period where time and place turn into a dimension which is easy to access. Everyone is able to know something happen in other part of this world at the same time. Various sophisticated technology has enabled everyone to convey everything to others. Information facilities and telecommunication develop very fast. That is why a handphone, TV, radio and even internet become public means in spreading information and propaganda. Information from various sources and interest will be very easy to form your character and mind set if you don’t have a strong fortress. Not to mention the emergence of immoral media which is easy to find on the street day after day. Magazines, news papers, tabloid, even comics and novels that are sweetly arranged only contain agitating stories for the soul and a false dream. And you could get those easily everywhere. Finally, these facts are only adding to the bad appearance of the world.

You also must realize that society around you is a group of ‘sick’ people. Society which looks good is in fact a brittle building which could be easily destroyed any time, even only with a soft blow of a wind.

When TV shows and secular western movies become an obligatory entertainment as well as trade mark for identity of recent generation, and idols of teenagers are movie stars, actors, and athletes who might never feel the true essence of life. So slowly but sure, a civilization have shifted. The existence of values of life, religious ethics and healthy mind set are threaten and later will be changed by new order and values which are ironically failure products from their origin. Yes, the concept of secularism, hedonism, nihilism, materialism and free sex are indeed scum products from a so called ‘modern’ civilization.

High criminal rate, and high un-cured depression and stress within western societies are evidence as well as direct effects of the manifestation of those concepts. Realizing the failed order, instead they compete in finding new ‘market’ for those scum ideas so that the economic growth and the big plan which they arrange could continue as planned. So that is what we see around us today. Western image is imitated blindly by some of the youth. The image of ‘advance’ and ‘modern’ seem to be effective to draw their attention.

Furthermore, through various and more advanced media, those kinds of failure are presented nicely, beautifully, and very tempting to their audience. Off course, those have been well planned by the enemy of Allah Subahanahu wa Ta'ala in their everlasting effort to destroy Muslim from within. Concerning this, The Messenger of Allah Subahanahu wa Ta'ala has reminded us:

لَتَتْبَعُنَّ سَنَنَ مَنْ كَانَ قَبْلَكُمْ شِبْرًا شِبْرًا وَذِرَاعًا بِذِرَاعٍ حَتَّى لَوْ دَخَلُوا جُحْرَ ضَبٍّ تَبِعْتُمُوهُمْ قُلْنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ الْيَهُودُ وَالنَّصَارَى قَالَ فَمَنْ

"You will follow the ways of those nations who were before you, span by span and cubit by cubit (i.e., inch by inch) so much so that even if they entered a hole of a mastigure, you would follow them." We said, "O Allah's Apostle! (Do you mean) the Jews and the Christians?" He said, "Whom else?" (Related by Al-Bukhari, no. 22/298)

My beloved daughter…!!

Never let your leisure time go in vain in front of the TV set or in something which will not bring any benefit in this world or the hereafter. Use your time to study, seek the knowledge of your religion, reading, and writing or do other beneficial activities.



The Misguided Emancipation


My beloved daughter…!

The enemies of Islam never rest for a second to think of ways so that the religion of Islam and its follower become more destructed from time to time. They never abandon the unawareness and ignorance that attack almost all Muslim societies. Slowly but sure, cunningly they use oriented methods to influence the process of education and teaching of Muslim women. Subtlely they blow the wind of emancipation among you, women. Whereas behind it, the big plan is to direct women to oppression and push them to destruction and deviation

My daughter, do you know that emancipation actually started with women demand for equal wage and working hours with men whom working in a same company in Europe. The discourse along with women movement in Europe finally spread to other field which spontaneously – or maybe deliberately – planned by certain party. Furthermore, the demand of equality has changed into demand of men rights violation. For example, at the beginning women demanded right in choosing spouse freely as happen with the men. But that right has changed into freedom of submitting themselves to whoever they wish. Therefore, be careful with what you’re doing, especially in this regard. Because Allah  has reminded in His saying:

وَلاَ تَقْفُ مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ إِنَّ السَّمْعَ وَالْبَصَرَ وَالْفُؤَادَ كُلُّ أُولـئِكَ كَانَ عَنْهُ مَسْؤُولاً

And follow not (O man i.e., say not, or do not or witness not, etc.) that of which you have no knowledge (e.g. ones saying: "I have seen," while in fact he has not seen, or "I have heard," while he has not heard). Verily! The hearing, and the sight, and the heart, of each of those you will be questioned (by Allah). (QS Al-Israa [17] : 36)

Therefore, it is common to see women whether going to or getting back from work walking alone or in group at night. Not to mention labours and working women who are getting used to do men job in factories. Obviously this is not the way of understanding the real status of women, which in fact should be in a noble position.

Do you remember the story of Khadijah c and Aisyah c? Both are the real women to be called as ‘success women’. Because of their scent of reputation, until now, in every period of time any one can still feel their everlasting charm and fragrance of the Muslim woman true quality. Hence, will you still look for other idols which in reality their status far behind both noble women? Indeed, Khadijah c, The First Lady, was a career woman as well as successful wife who should be an example for everyone. Her Prominent figure, her strength, generosity, and her success in business has been proved. And it was followed by the success of accompanying her husband as a leader of mankind. An achievement which could never be attained by other women in any period of time. Or don’t you want to be like Aisyah c who was a success educator as well as a role model for her nation at the time and after her beloved husband passed away? The Humairah who was always proficient in helping her husband’s task, alert and lively in supporting ‘the programs’ of her husband, the Prophet and the leader of mankind, while at the same time she never abandoned her true function as a wife. Both of them were the true career women, o my daughter! Both are heroes and upholder of the true honour for her fellow women. And both of them could set women position in highest rank without detracting even the smallest degree of their honour.

So listen, my daughter! Don’t ever be tempted by the wind of emancipation unceasingly brought by people around you. Because, indeed, the main goal of that jargon is not to save or free you from the oppression, but rather to destroy you and your religion from within.



The Unlimeted Free Mixing


My beloved daughter…!

Undeniable today is very difficult to find a place free from the free mixing (ikhtilath) between men and women. Ikhtilath happening in every aspect of life continues on a level that is very difficult to cope. Schools, campus, office buildings, factory and even public place and transportation are not free from the culture (i.e. free mixing). The condition of apathetic society who is ignorance of religious knowledge, not to mention strong influence of western culture endlessly in blowing their ‘cultural wind’ has made it as if an obligation to be imitated. And as a legitimation for this misguiding tradition as well.

On the other hand, undeniable there are still many ‘educated’ men behind those policy maker who consider that such gathering (free mixing) is a mean of bringing true relationship between both sexes which in the end be able to purify primal instinct between the two even though the negative effect of it is very clear. This should become a warning for those who realise and understand the danger of free mixing.

Many reports from in and outside this country presenting a tragic and miserable society condition resulted from free mixing. Educational institutions, offices, or other places are becoming prosperous field for expanding this dangerous concept. Because ikhtilath in reality is a determinant for incidents such as adultery, psychological problem. On the other hand, these problems are not yet proved capable of purifying the instinct as an excuse of those ‘educated’ man.

The continuing effect of the wretched condition emerges in this confused society. Pregnancy cases from illegitimate relationship, abortion, rape, even suicide and homicide are the results of this culture. Defective community order, corrupted morale and lack of shame arose deep concern of life in the future.

If only Muslims devotedly and steadfastly hold Islamic concept in the right and wholly way (kaffah), surely the influence of this ideology would not enter or destroy their hearts and minds. On the other hand, Muslims should also be firm in dealing with non-Muslims deception who never stop reaching their objective. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'alahas given His assurance of the victory of His religion from their deception, under the condition that every Muslim should be steadfast in upholding forbearance and piety.

Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says:

وَإِن تَصْبِرُواْ وَتَتَّقُواْ لاَ يَضُرُّكُمْ كَيْدُهُمْ شَيْئاً إِنَّ اللّهَ بِمَا يَعْمَلُونَ مُحِيطٌ

“If you remain patient and become Al-Muttaqoon (the pious - see V.2:2), not the least harm will their cunning do to you. Surely, Allah surrounds all that they do.” (QS Al-Imran [3] : 120)




.....to be continued insya Allah